On Women & Women's Movements
Gone are the Indian culturally ideological days of “Pati Parmeshwars” and equally probable philosophy of “Sati Savitris”. It is rather ironically true that the developing nation has built its strong foundation on the atrocities of women folk, but the evolution has always been misleading. The society was generous enough to accept the equality stance, in each and every womanly aspect, yet education has played a great deal in the uplift, but was the outcome worthy enough, is yet to be pored over. Here a jobless woman, though being educated, confines herself to a two lettered word “House Wife”, which can be further derogatory when it tends towards an abbreviation of SAHM. The educated folk have a tendency to believe the condition has occurred due to a patriarchal anarchy.
The women folk seem to be on a wild goose chase or on a never ending odyssey, either against the society or against men. They have formed groups and movements and many women are being unnecessary victims, by joining, just for the sake. They want freedom, but by freedom if they meant a utopia, where a westernized Indian woman won’t be stared at by the men folk, then it is disgusting. This is not a matter of upbringing, or low level thoughts, but a matter of “used to” & “not used to”. Adopting unfit features from other culture is not called development. Even the term dowry is ostensibly linked with just the demanding by the men folk, but when it is offered by the woman’s family, it is their parental wish, or for the daughter’s financial security, though it is also called dowry but at a subdued level only. Woman or the associated members form norms and rules, which when followed by men, is called taboo, not culturally but socially. Woman should understand the physiological and biological differences, and hence it is worthless when a woman asks “If he can smoke and drink, why can’t I?”
If we keenly look out for the statistics, how many women’s movements in India have actually uplifted the women folk? How many candle light vigils were organised when a minor Dalit girl was raped on the outskirts of a village in Uttar Pradesh? How many women owned social media accounts from Bihar? There are more women in India who can just enjoy a tweet but can’t TWEET. Have any women’s movement ever thought of banning the unnecessary “Item Numbers”, paradoxically from a movie directed by a woman? Are they not degraded to the level of just ITEMS? Which women’s movement in India has ever given the courage to a woman/girl to speak TRUTH? Which women’s movement in Indian history has led a woman in getting JUSTICE? Here the movements are either upper biased or confined to a social media where 3/4th of the members are hypocritically diplomats and don’t comment either. We don’t understand the motto behind such movements, which gets boosted up only when, men are being stoned.
Censuses have shown that most women like and enjoy being under men, where they are pampered, loved and given security. They too expect their dream man to have the same characteristics. Men too appreciate to have a woman who can be their second mother and a good cook too. Both of them together run the family. Men and women are not wrestlers but each has their own distinctive part to play in life and society. Hence there is no question of equality. It will be just like asking who is a better sports person, Sachin Tendulkar or P.T Usha.